When 2013 started I made a decision of not involving myself in heated debates. No time, no energy, no desire nor inclination to do so. For me at this point in time, it’s a waste. I could use the time and energy to serve the Gods, to help others and be with the ones I love. In my opinion there’s little (if anything) to gain from engaging in heated arguments over ‘who’s right and who’s not’. On the contrary – people get upset, take things personally, the name-calling starts and it all turns into this childish ‘I’m not playing with you any more!’ [I'm not talking about calling people out on complete bullshit, that's a completely different story and subject of discussion, which I'm not even inclined to touch on any time soon]. I promised myself I won’t get angry any more. I used to get upset over a lot of things. Now… not so much. My general way of thinking is now ‘heh, okay, if they see it that way then… fine. Now to find something else to read.’
Where is all this coming from you ask? Well, over the past couple of weeks I’ve witnessed quite a handful of these debates which have turned into arguments and name-calling. I personally think it’s senseless. And the worst is when it all starts from really innocent stuff, like someone writing a general opinion blog, out of personal experiences, observations and beliefs. Then someone else reads it and feel personally attacked, although the author of the blog itself doesn’t even know them. I wonder why this happens. Why is it that some feel threatened by someone’s opinion badly enough to lash out in name-calling, cussing and generally unpleasant words and behaviour?
I have people disagreeing with me all the time, just recently I put up the Reading List from here on tumblr. only to see some expressing their dislike (can’t find another word right now) for Budge. Did I feel threatened? Did I argue? No. I gave a polite response and left it at that. People can take from all of that what they want. [Incidentally I will make note of this now: I personally dislike Budge immensely, not only for his outdated ideas but also for other reasons. However I will still recommend people read some of his stuff. Even if it's just to see a different perspective or as an idea of what Egyptology was dealing with at his time].
Not everyone needs to agree all the time. Heck, I don’t agree with myself sometimes, it’s all part of learning. I’ve changed my mind numerous times, I’ve totally read stuff that now I consider to be real ‘brain rotting’ stuff, I’ve come to conclusions I later changed my opinion on, etc.
We all change, we all have our opinions and sometimes those change too. We can’t help it, it’s only human. But whatever happened to disagreeing politely? I swear some times I think there are some who find a sense of personal failure if they don’t convince others of their point.
I will tell you now, I’ve taken about a week to decide if I should keep this blog or not. The overall online atmosphere has been unpleasant to say the least. I’ve always hoped that by reading my humble attempts at blogging someone might find an interesting idea or two, even if it’s just a book they might like to read. In view of that hope, I’ll be keeping the blog.
By writing on here and interacting with other bloggers I’ve come across some brilliant resources and have had the pleasure of finding some remarkable folks with brilliant minds and ideas. I’ll always be grateful for that. (and let me tell you, I don’t always agree with them either! Which is absolutely fine. People can disagree and still have respect for one another)
I don’t consider myself an expert on anything, most of the times I feel I don’t know enough and I have to keep learning. I always want to find more resources, more books, more sites. I never have enough pencils, pens or notebooks. Or even scraps of paper to write down stuff. If you’d only see my desk right now! Maybe this is why I don’t have the time or energy for arguing. I want to learn, I want to get better at my calligraphy, at drawing ( I don’t consider my drawings anything other than humble doodling, most of the times inspired by stuff I find online or in books. I don’t lack inspiration, I lack skill so that’s why I need to exercise with other people’s designs!), I want to commune with the Gods more and be in the spiritual side of things even more, I want to improve my magical techniques, work with ingredients and such I haven’t worked with before. Experiment, try, learn and get better. And personally, I don’t think I can achieve any of that if I sit around and argue.
Why can’t we all just…. get along?
On to the other order of business – stuff I’m working on for the blog:
Post on medicine and magic, post on knot magic, post on sacred scents (another big addendum to the previous, this one more in detail of what works for Who, from personal experience mostly), post on random interesting bits I’ve found (including interesting ideas about the relationship between Anubis and Seth) and more devotional posts. And of course, adding up to the ever-growing post on ritual purity. Also adding up to the Reading List and Resources. pages. And that’s not even half of what I have planned out but enough spoilers already